What is Anger?

Anger is a natural emotion and the feeling itself is not bad. However, we have been taught in society to label anger as a negative emotion giving it a bad connotation. Since early childhood, we were conditioned to suppress our anger (e.g. toddler who cried due to anger gets punished.) What we need to realize is that when we feel angry, our body reacts in response to our thoughts telling it: "Wait, there is something wrong, something I don't like and I need to take action." The problem arises when we suppress this message and the feeling of anger bottles up in our subconscious.  As a result of this intensifying tension, the inevitable aggressive outburst is unleashed. This is exactly why anger has been given such a bad reputation. However, it is very important not to confuse anger with aggression. Anger is the emotion and aggression is the action. It is aggression that can be destructive whereas anger can be a motivator to do something. It is the emotion of the rights, the wrongs, the fair and unfair situations in our life rooted in our beliefs. Since our feelings are created by us through our beliefs then we can challenge this way of thinking  to eradicate the pattern of aggressiveness.

You can challenge your pattern of aggressive behaviors by asking  yourself the following:  why am I feeling this way? What situation has created this? Am I feeling other emotions such as frustration, disappointment  instead of anger??  Keep in mind that you are not limited to these questions alone.  So  Get control of your emotions by getting control of your thoughts. When you lose control of thoughts, actions and become aggressive, you may need help finding balance so that you can live a healthier life.

If you find that you tend to be angry most days than not and that your behaviors are affecting you and those around you, then it is recommended that you seek professional help.